One thing that took me a long time to get over was the judgment of others because I was/had been a teen mom. That got under my skin more than anything so much that I allowed it run my life. I began to try to live a life that would please THEM. Guess what I also learned, THEY are never pleased.
Then I realized that we are all flawed and sin differently. Why should I allow someone else to judge me for my sins because theirs haven’t revealed yet? That is something that we do as people far too often. Think about how that makes you feel every time some looks at you in a judgmental way or whispers a word about you. Be sure you are not doing the same to someone else.
Don’t allow others to judge you because of the situation that you are in. It’s only temporary. You won’t be a teen mom your entire life. Your life is not defined because of this. You still have greatness in you that is yet to be exposed to the world. Don’t get bothered by their remarks. I know the words hurt but you can disprove them with your positive actions.
Set your own standards. Set your own goals. Declare positive affirmations of yourself daily.
When I saw this the other day, all I could do was laugh! This statement is so true but often overlooked. Have you been wondering lately, what is wrong with my child? Let me suggest that you answer that question by asking yourself, “whats wrong with me?”
Believe it or not but our children pick up on our moods, attitudes and emotions. If you have been stressed lately, your child(ren) is more likely to act out or go in a shell. Have you been crying a lot lately? Your child may become more whiney. Are you always snapping at people? Your child may develop those same characteristics right before your very eyes.
We can no longer tell children to do as I say and not as I do. They are looking at you to be a role model. You are the example. Have you thought about that? You are the example. They will learn how to treat people by watching you. They will learn how to deal with situations by watching you. They will learn how to deal with relationships by watching you. They will know how to talk to people by listening to you. You are their blueprint for life!
Instead of asking what is wrong with my child, turn that question around and ask yourself? I challenge you to be more aware of your actions and emotions. Then watch the changes in your child(ren). You will be amazed at how very much they are connected. When you feel yourself being overwhelmed or stressed, take a deep breath before you act or say anything because your child(ren) are watching. What do you want them to see?
Remember you are their blueprint for life!
Father, help me to be more aware of my actions and emotions for the sake of my child(ren). Help me to slow down enough to take a deep breath before I do anything. Help me to look to You for my answers. In Jesus’ name, amen!