1 Corinthians 13: 4-7
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone when it s done in the proper way. Don’t think that you have no right to have someone love you because you do. You have just as much right as anyone else. Now you have to be picky because you cannot just have anyone around your child. Not only are we protecting our heart but we are the protectors of our children.
If a man seems to be good for you and not your child, then please don’t be mistaken because that man is no good at all. Never choose a man over your children and never settle for a man just for your children if you know that you cannot love him the way he should be loved. The one you choose for your life will also be in the life of your child and have influence over them. Take your time and seek God before you start trying to settle down. God did not create us to be loners but He created us to enjoy companionship with others.
As Christians we are to present our bodies as a living sacrifice to God. What does that mean? We only use our bodies to please God and not man. Tell that young man, “my body is the Lord’s temple so don’t mess with me because I’m God’s property”. If they don’t understand what you are saying or try to tell you it’s too late to say that because you already have a child then that is a sign that you don’t need to be with them in the first place.
Anyone who truly loves you will not ask you to do anything against God’s word regardless of your past. If they don’t know God’s word then that is definitely a clue for you to end the relationship especially if they are not willing to learn the word of God. If you can’t pray and study God’s word with the young man that has interest you, then you need to leave him where you found him. No questions asked. You will celebrate it in the long run.
Just because you may have met him in the church doesn’t mean that God has his heart. There are some imitators in the church house just like in the world. Being in a relationship that is unhealthy for you and your child will add more stress to not only your life but also to your emotional well being. Love is not to be played with on any level.
The power of love is so grossly underestimated. There are a lot of people behind bars or in the grave in the name of love. Love can make you do some crazy things if you are not careful but it also can be the most joyous experience one can have when done God’s way. God is love and He wants us to love and be loved. More importantly He wants us to follow His instructions concerning love.